Confidence, Trust and Hope

The Secret to Lifelong Happiness & Success

Most of the problems in life stem from one cause: we can't get ourselves to take some type of action. Whether it's changing our diet and working out or taking a risk and going back to school, actions stand between where we are and where we want to be.

As you already know, it's not that we don't know what to do - the answers to what we need to do are all around us. The problem is getting ourselves to follow through and do it.

So what's the problem? Why don't we simply get up and go? As you know, it's not that easy.

Fear, sacrifice, procrastination, ingrained habits...so many obstacles stand in the way of a happier, more successful life. Every step of the way you have amazingly powerful forces working against you trying to keep you from changing.

With this in mind, it's easy to understand why people have such a difficult time improving their lives and achieving their goals.

But what if you could make obstacles like fear and procrastination disappear in an instant? What if you could close your eyes for just a second or two and immediately feel driven to do whatever it took to get what you wanted?

This is the rare gift of the greatest successes on earth, the special ability only a handful of people have that allows them to experience a quality of life far beyond your wildest dreams.

Some of them don't even know they have this unbelievable skill; they just seem to get whatever they want, whenever they want it. Others understand what it is and how best to use it. But for the rest of us, this unique gift is a complete and utter mystery. Selengkapnya...

I Have Five Questions to Ask You

Dear Friend,

Do you love your job? Are you as healthy as you'd like to be? Do you have as much money as you need and want? Are your relationships meaningful and rewarding? Most important, are you living each day as the person you'd always hoped you'd become?

I wish you could answer yes to each question, but it's not always easy to make these things happen, is it? You work hard every day and have the best of intentions, but still you struggle to create the life you really want to live.

Perhaps you can even relate to several of the problems described below:

Heading off to an unchallenging, unfulfilling, and low-paying job without any prospects of a bright and satisfying career in the future. Spending forty hours every week working for someone you don't admire or respect.
Feeling unhappy and guilty about the way you look and afraid of the health risks that come with being out of shape. Running out of energy and feeling exhausted even before the day has run out. Wanting to change and live a healthier lifestyle but struggling to make it happen.
Living paycheck to paycheck without being able to put money aside for savings, investments, or retirement. Feeling guilty about not being able to provide the nicer things in life for your family, and terrified at the thought of growing old without enough money to get by.
Feeling alone and disconnected from others - even in a long-term relationships. Wanting to make new friends and enjoy fulfilling relationships with family and friends but unable to make it happen.
Living by routine without any joy or excitement, unable to change negative habits or patterns. Doing the same things day after day and never feeling truly happy or fulfilled. Having to deal with constant worry, stress, and feelings of hopelessness.

While not every scenario hit home, I'm sure you've dealt with at least a handful of these feelings in your life. And you're not alone. Literally millions of people just like you are hoping to live a happier, more successful life, but the sad reality is that most will never find what they're looking for.

They'll live their entire lives without ever experiencing a rich, lively, exciting, and immensely rewarding life - and it's not through a lack of desire or effort.

If you haven't created the life you've always wanted to experience, it's not because you don't work hard or don't deserve it. And it's definitely not because you're simply a bad person.

No, the actual reason you're not getting everything you want in life is because you're missing a single critical skill.


	"...the only book to have stirred me into action." "Over the past 20 years I have read dozens of books on motivation and when I got to the last chapter I simply shut the book - and did nothing. "The Motivated Mind is the only book to have stirred me into action. Even before I got to the end I was 'up and at it,' and actually taking definite steps towards achieving all of my goals." John Savage London, England

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Increase Motivation

If you want to make things happen the ability to motivate yourself and others is a crucial skill. At work, home, and everywhere in between, people use motivation to get results. Motivation requires a delicate balance of communication, structure, and incentives. These 21 tactics will help you maximize motivation in yourself and others.

Motivation

1. Consequences – Never use threats. They’ll turn people against you. But making people aware of the negative consequences of not getting results (for everyone involved) can have a big impact. This one is also big for self motivation. If you don’t get your act together, will you ever get what you want?

2. Pleasure – This is the old carrot on a stick technique. Providing pleasurable rewards creates eager and productive people.

3. Performance incentives – Appeal to people’s selfish nature. Give them the opportunity to earn more for themselves by earning more for you.

4. Detailed instructions – If you want a specific result, give specific instructions. People work better when they know exactly what’s expected.

5. Short and long term goals – Use both short and long term goals to guide the action process and create an overall philosophy.

6. Kindness – Get people on your side and they’ll want to help you. Piss them off and they’ll do everything they can to screw you over.

7. Deadlines – Many people are most productive right before a big deadline. They also have a hard time focusing until that deadline is looming overhead. Use this to your advantage by setting up a series of mini-deadlines building up to an end result.

8. Team Spirit – Create an environment of camaraderie. People work more effectively when they feel like part of team — they don’t want to let others down.

10. Recognize achievement – Make a point to recognize achievements one-on-one and also in group settings. People like to see that their work isn’t being ignored.

11. Personal stake – Think about the personal stake of others. What do they need? By understanding this you’ll be able to keep people happy and productive.

12. Concentrate on outcomes – No one likes to work with someone standing over their shoulder. Focus on outcomes — make it clear what you want and cut people loose to get it done on their own.

13. Trust and Respect – Give people the trust and respect they deserve and they’ll respond to requests much more favorably.

14. Create challenges – People are happy when they’re progressing towards a goal. Give them the opportunity to face new and difficult problems and they’ll be more enthusiastic.

15. Let people be creative – Don’t expect everyone to do things your way. Allowing people to be creative creates a more optimistic environment and can lead to awesome new ideas.

16. Constructive criticism – Often people don’t realize what they’re doing wrong. Let them know. Most people want to improve and will make an effort once they know how to do it.

17. Demand improvement – Don’t let people stagnate. Each time someone advances raise the bar a little higher (especially for yourself).

18. Make it fun – Work is most enjoyable when it doesn’t feel like work at all. Let people have fun and the positive environment will lead to better results.

19. Create opportunities – Give people the opportunity to advance. Let them know that hard work will pay off.

20. Communication – Keep the communication channels open. By being aware of potential problems you can fix them before a serious dispute arises.

21. Make it stimulating – Mix it up. Don’t ask people to do the same boring tasks all the time. A stimulating environment creates enthusiasm and the opportunity for “big picture” thinking.

Master these key points and you’ll increase motivation with a bit of hard work.

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